Things Fall Apart question

Okonkwow felt dismay and sadness when Ikemefumna died. To him, sadness is a sight of feminine weekness. Okonkwow already stated that he does not wish to become what his dad was (kind and lazy). Crying at a death is considered a kindness. It may not seem that way, to many people, it is merely a natural reaction. It is, but, it is a sighn of curtesy because you are missing them. To this character however, it is a womanly act and he doesn't want to take part in it. This shows his struggle to strive to be an "ideal man".